You know ‘em … those three memorable words taught to us in youth to save our lives if we were on fire: stop, drop and roll. That same advice, those same three words, also are essential to save our lives from smoldering away into discontent and unfulfilled potential.
How do I know? Cause I did it.
The first part of 2018 I woke up every morning with mixed feelings, I was happy with some parts of life but utterly unsatisfied with others. I could have kept going … pluggin’ along and holding on to what I thought was my “ideal life” in Tobago. And I probably would have until I was blessed with a little fire … or rather a big blazing scorching jolt to my life plan. So I stopped. I dropped. I rolled.
And this is what I learned.
Stop: Pause. Poke your head above the fog of the daily routine and look at your life. Evaluate what is happening and how you’re feeling. I hadn’t allowed myself to do that and failing to do so perpetuated the same unfulfilling action.
“Stop searching for happiness in the same place you lost it. Change is not dismantling the old, it’s building the new.”– Brianna Wiest
Drop: Drop what isn’t working. Let go of caring what others think. Give up merely existing in the life you think they think you should have. I had to muster the courage to let it go and do something different. Let’s be real … that took untold strength and bravery.
“Often, holding on is what you do when you’re not strong enough to scrap your plans and start anew … The truth is that sometimes, the most loving and important thing you can do for yourself is give up.”– Brianna Wiest
Roll: Roll with change. Embrace uncertainty and let it move you to a new place. I found that being open and admitting that I didn’t know exactly what was coming next did NOT mean that I had lost my way or that I had failed. It just meant that I was in a fertile phase, allowing something greater to happen. I have the freedom to do and be something better than what I was allowing before.
“Uncertainty is the fertile ground of pure creativity and freedom.”– Deepak Chopra
Now … I’m still uncertain. I’m still digging in that fertile ground. But I am more hopeful, grateful and aware than ever before.